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Posted: Jun 3, 2010 6:04 am
So, next summer, I am getting married in Memphis. While I have been to a ton of weddings, I have never planned one. I know all of the usual places and venues for a wedding, but I need some suggestions for catering, venues, etc. For instance, I have no clue who to get flowers from or who my fiance would use for hair and makeup. So, can ya'll help a brother out?
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 7:35 am
so definitely think about the metal museum or the gardens at rhodes college. Those are both pretty nice places for a wedding.

another roadside attraction seems to be a popular catering comp.

don't know about the hair and flower places.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 8:44 am
Thanks Jerryd. We are looking at the metal museum. My fiance has never been there (she is from up here in Pittsburgh), but I have been to a few weddings there. I love it. We are also looking at the brooks. I haven't thought about Rhodes College, but that is a good idea. I was thinking the brooks because they give you one price for everything, which in the end could be cheaper.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 9:39 am
When Windy reads this I'm sure she'll chime in. We got married July 2008 in Memphis. At Graceland.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 9:56 am
Joe T got married next to Isaac Hayes' gold cadillac in the Stax Museum... that was awesome!
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 9:58 am
Joseph T and i got married at stax in front of isaac hayes' cadillac. then we had our reception at the hitone. We got cozy corner ribs and gus's fried chicken and let everyone eat buffet style. i know krissy woods from this here board does hair. I made my own bouqets from flowers we ordered from sams and had delivered so i cant suggest a florist but as the millionaire said im sure windy will chime in soon with lots of tips.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 10:03 am
Here are some of the hangups for the deal:

1) her family is going to be travelling from a very small town north of pittsburgh. I am trying to find a place for them to staty that is central to a venue, as well as some place that will not freak them out. I think the Stax museum would freak them out.
2) There is going to be a big invite list, and I need to find a place that can accomodate about 3-400 people.
3) My friends drink. Alot. I am afraid some place like stax or the brooks would be too much temptation to cause mayhem.

I am leaning towards the metal museum or the cadre building. But, eventually, this is not my call. I just have to stand there and look pretty.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 10:04 am
We got married July 2008 in Memphis. At Graceland.

That, my friend, rules.
Maybe we can get married at Goner.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 10:20 am
yeah, our families are pretty country...we worried about what they would think of mclemore but then we decided it was our day and since thats what we wanted they could suck it up or stay home.

we're not very accomodating...but stax had security in the lot and the museum is so beautiful inside. My dad loved it...he drove rufus thomas around in the 60s when he was on tour in north carolina-whatever town my dad was living in then...he kept calling his best friend who is an insane old record collector and bragging about all the places we went...like " my daughters reception is in elvis's old karate studio"..."my daughter and her new husband just said their vows in front of isaac hayes' cadillac"..."my daughter has kegs of pbr at her wedding"...his friend eventually stopped answering his phone and my dad left him annoying messages instead.

the rest of my family just got drunk and ended up having a blast...i think joes side is a little more conservative but i was too busy monitoring how much whiskey and champagne my gramma drank to worry what they thought.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 10:24 am
My sister has a cake shop in West Memphis. They do pretty great work, deliver to Memphis and I think they're cheaper than most places in Memphis:

Posted: Jun 3, 2010 10:56 am
Joe you haven't mentioned budget which is a major factor when deciding on wedding venue/guest list. If you're budget is unlimited, the sky is the limit, but we paid for everything ourselves, so I did a lot myself. Also, I have a hard time spending a shit-ton of money on things when there is no good reason for a ridiculous mark up (i.e. anything labeled "wedding" )

I looked into the Magnolia Room, Metal museum, STAX, The Hunt Phelan Inn, and Graceland. We had some snafus w/ the millionaire's ex being a cunt, so I scrapped the wedding we had planned at Hunt Phelan and we went with Graceland due to the budget/time frame being slashed at the last minute.

The biggest tip I have is plan a weekend day or weekday - prices are crazy different between a thursday night and a saturday. Often you can find availability for a weeknight when all the weekends are already booked - put the difference toward the booze bill.

Hunt Phelan can accommodate quite a few people, especially if you use their outdoor area, however they don't have as many rooms in the B & B as a normal hotel, so you won't have tons of sleep space for out of towners. Hunt Phelan will also allow you to use the front steps and circle drive for free for a ceremony if you have something booked immediately afterwards.

Despite reneging on our wedding/reception that was planned there, the HP allowed us to put our deposit toward a room - their customer service was impeccable and I would highly recommend them to anyone.

STAX was pricier, as you can imagine it would be - Joe T and Hethurr can probably give you more info on that than I can.

Metal Museum was an awesome spot but has tons of restrictions as to which caterers you could use, alcohol and chair/tent set up and take down. They seemed nice and helpful, but ultimately it would have gone beyond our budget to jump through their hoops. Also, I didn't care for being told where I had to get my food/chairs/tents etc.

Graceland was the shit. There's no way that 300-400 would fit in the walls of that chapel, but if you chose to do a small ceremony and then a kick ass reception elsewhere, I can highly recommend them as well. Also, we ordered a cake as part of our wedding package and it was the best goddamn wedding cake I have ever tasted in my life (I'm not a fan of wedding cake). I'd find out who their bakery is and go there for my cake even if you have to smuggle it in somewhere! (Bakery was in Southaven as I recall)

Andria can help you locate flowers - Best decision I made was to do my own - great budget saver, and as I am picky, I knew I would be satisfied with how they all turned out.

Another budget saver for us, especially in a time crunch was making all the hairpieces. Y'all have plenty of time to decide what you want. I had my decisions made nearly a year in advance, so having to scrap the wedding and start over wasn't as big of a blow.

You're probably better off buying a tux (or suit of whatever) than renting if you will wear it ever again. Again, you have tons of time to check out what you like and find sales in the off season.

as for centerpieces/table decor - if you are going DIY Hobby Lobby is your friend. Nearly every week they have a 40% off coupon. Nearly every other week, they have stuff 50% - stuff like candles, mirrors, vases. I bought materials for centerpieces that were marketed as Christmas items. After Christmas those items go up to 90% off...

So, if you are planning any sort of DIY wedding - email me or call me if you want more info. That was probably more chiming in than you wanted.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 11:32 am
Maybe we can get married at Goner.

I believe it's available...
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 1:02 pm
married at Goner

We took pictures there after the ceremony. Eric and Joe T will pose with you for cheap!
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 1:09 pm
10% off all used lps during the wedding!
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 2:38 pm
I was married at the Metal Museum once. Beautiful place for a wedding. The drawback is that everything you do is outside. Summer's not the best time for that.
Sarah was also married there one late June Saturday. Great wedding, but it was already hot as all blazes!

Heathurr and Joe T's reception at the HiTone was probably the most fun wedding reception I've ever been to.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 4:00 pm
No Joke, I will totally throw a Record Party/Post Wedding Brunch at Goner. I doubt I can talk the better half into a wedding there, but a post wedding party, maybe. If I provide booze, can we make this happen?

Windy, thanks for all of the tips. We are doing things on the cheap in some phases, but going all out in others. For instance, she is a pretty introverted person who doesn't have a lot of people close to her, where as I am a social juggernaut of sorts compared to her. This being the case, I have been in 12 weddings and she has not been in any. I was having the problem of deciding who would be in the wedding party, and she was adament that we would not have one. And, she won. So, with no wedding party, we are able to cut out the cost of gifts for them and other expenses. We are going to get the printed materials for free because, well, that is what I do for a living. We are going to make centerpieces and escort cards, etc. But, the food has to be amazing because her family doesn't really drink too much. And, the bar has to be stocked like the fridge from a Dr. Dre video and the tour rider for Motley Crue in their prime, because my family drinks. So, that is where the budget is being spent. I have some good hookups on booze, and I was thinking that we would contact Another Roadside attraction and some others for food ideas.

Trip, I will definitely be contacting your sister for a quote on some cake and to try some out. Sadly, I had to retype that sentence six times to do all that I could to erase the innuendo.

And, I am having a custom suit made. Fuck a tux. They just make me look like more of a strip club bouncer than I already do.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 4:04 pm
Your lady is welcome to email me through the board any time. No need to feel weird about it. Thinking about all that stuff has stirred up knowledge I forgot I had!
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 6:09 pm
I attended a surprisingly banging wedding at the Pink Palace Museum. There was lots of space inside and out, and it's in a central part of the city for hotels, I think.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 8:39 pm
Wedding Photos - Kelly C. email- mirrorbaby@gmail.com She's shot hundreds of weddings, works big or small, very reasonable, and darn good.
Posted: Jun 3, 2010 9:55 pm
If I ever get murd again I'm gonna have my wedding at Graceland II in Holly Springs, MS. I'm gonna ask Paul Mcleod to be my best man.
Posted: Jun 4, 2010 5:57 am
thanks for the Tip Dag. I will give Kelly a shout.

And, Windy, thanks for the offer of help. She may be contacting you.

And, I got a call last night from the Brooks. For the wedding size we are going to have, etc, the price for the Brooks is $24,000 roughly. Um. No.
Posted: Jun 4, 2010 12:27 pm
our main goner go-to guy Don Perry does the wedding shots, too...
Posted: Jun 4, 2010 1:30 pm
You may want to try the Lichterman Nature Center, too. It's on a lot of land. There is an outdoor ampitheatre, and there are hotels nearby. It may even be available cheap, as it sort of off the radar.
Posted: Jun 4, 2010 4:06 pm
Good call on Lichterman. I hadn't even thought of that one.
Posted: Jun 4, 2010 5:07 pm | Edited by: Uptight White
cadre building

I recommend having it someplace else. The staff there did not have it's act together there for the three weddings I attended there last year and close parking could be tough to come by if there is a big downtown event that same night.
Posted: Jun 4, 2010 5:35 pm
our main goner go-to guy Don Perry does the wedding shots, too..

he did ours! they were great!
Posted: Jun 5, 2010 1:28 am
I'm getting married in Rocktober and having the reception at The Center For Southern Folklore and a cocktail party at The Arcade the night before. I'm keeping everything near the downtown hotels, the trolley line and Beale St (or Raiford's or Ernestine & Hazels) for the out of town guests that want to play late. They won't need a car, so I'll see about a tour for Stax, Sun and Graceland.
Posted: Jun 5, 2010 5:03 am
We got spliced inside Sun, had the wedding dinner in the annex room at the Bar-B-Que Shop, then the reception at The Bucc good times!

Peeps came from all over, wuz all ages/tastes, and still really dug it. Most stayed at the Artizan (which wasn't quite so cruddy at the time, and is v. central to places to eat/drink), and a few at the now defunct French Quarter on Union. Mebbe a good idea would be to get some feedback on what the Artizan's like at the mo'...

Gotta give serious props to getting Tad and his '55 Caddy as a wedding car: www.americandreamsafari.com

Some pics here:

Posted: Jun 6, 2010 11:49 am
Department store makeup counter people can possibly give you a hook up for makeup. I ended up having a friend who used to manage a Clinique counter do mine, but barring that I could have paid $150 or so for someone to come out.

As for hair, maybe ask friends who live here where they get their hurr did. Most any stylist can do wedding hair/work around a veil or whatever.
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 6:41 pm
Department store makeup counter people can possibly give you a hook up

Just schedule a make up consultation, and tell them what you want. They will do it for free, but most expect you to ultimately buy something. Buy the lipstick and just freshen it up throughout the day.
Posted: Jun 6, 2010 6:58 pm
paggios is great for getting the ladies wedding party hair done - i suggest Dara:)
Posted: Jun 9, 2010 1:28 pm
Kick ass. You guys are helping me out a bunch.

A friend had his rehearsal at the Center for Southern Folklore. It was nice time.
Cadre has been ruled out.
Shandy, I may bite your style and get the Caddy.
Looks like we are going with the Brooks, with Metal Museum as the backup plan. I am awaiting contracts, etc.
Sun was too small for my fiance's taste and they seemed to nickel and dime you to death. We both just want to pay one price and get it over with. Brooks was that way for the most part.
Posted: Jun 9, 2010 7:37 pm
We just went to a wedding where the groom's cake was made to look like a stack of books on a drafting table. It was super cool. The bakery was called "Flour Garden".Wokka wokka.
The cake tasted good, too, but it looked better.
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